Oops! They told her she is four! & They prefer she eats first

My girl turned four today. But we didn't tell her. We just didn't do it as we were going to do a small party on Saturday for her with cake and gifts and just wanted to call that her birthday.

But they told her at school. I was feeling bad about not telling her all day long from work. Jamie didnt seem to mind though. She was just happy we took her to the restaurant. And the restaurant served her some caramel nut pie. then we went to Chuckie Cheese for a quick go around.

We will still do a small get together on Saturday, Cinda? will you guys come? Nothing fancy, maybe some Mac & Cheese for the kids, and maybe Chili for us grownups...Sound ok?

Go ahead, tell me if I am a bad mom. I can take it. We are never ready for her birthday so soon after Christmas and have been celebrating later in the month every year (usually the 3rd weekend). But this year I didn't tell the teacher, so the secret got out.

In other news, when I took Jamie to school today, her teacher informed me that she would prefer Jamie didn't eat breakfast there. I just turned to her and said, well that isn't going to work for us. Jamie won't get up in the morning, and I can barely get her dressed, there isn't any way I am going to get her to eat before 7:30am.

I then asked if I should find another daycare...she said no. I asked why things had changed, as this was spelled out clearly in the beginning...that they didn't serve breakfast, but the kids could eat there in the morning if the parents brought it. I was told because Jamie's classroom is where all the other classes drop their kids before 8:30 it's too chaotic for the teacher to handle.

Is that my problem? or theirs?

I'm sorry but this is almost a deal breaker. The last place I took Jamie was home based and she got a hot breakfast and lunch each day. Plus snacks.

Do you feed your child before daycare/school?